So pretty early on in my life I realized that I shouldn't expect everyone else to do what I think they should do. In general believing in your perception of what is right for people strongly enough to override their perception of what is right for themselves will get you into a lot of trouble, and it almost always doesn't work, either cause you in fact didn't have the right answer, or because even if you did, the act of telling them you do does more harm than good.

So to sum that up, try not to hold people accountable to your personal values to heavily, as theirs may be different, and they have a right to have different values.

But here's where things get tricky...

What about their stated values? What happens when someone tells you they will do something, and they don't? What happens when someone can't be held accountable to their own professed values or actions?

I suppose ideally I could accept people for whoever they are, even if who they say they are doesn't line up with what they do. I've always had a hard time with this. I have a hard time forgiving people for not taking responsibility for their own actions, especially when the responsibility is simply admitting that by their own stated values they made a mistake. I also want to get better at forgiving once they have admitted their mistake of course, but I at least CAN do that. Accepting people who lie, cheat, or steal, is something I've always struggled with.